The joys of skate night emo // L’Observateur
Venturing out of the comfort of my bed after a long week wasn’t exactly my top priority last Saturday night. However, even I couldn’t resist the temptation of Emo Skate Night, the latest use of the Student Activities Office (SAO) for the Stepan Center. Did I know how to skate? No. Have I ever been through an emo phase? No either, but better late than never! Plus, college is all about trying new things. So, I got out of hibernation, put on a black sweater – admittedly, and maybe a little embarrassing, the most emo clothes I own – and enlisted a few friends to help me out. this very dangerous business.
The most cursed building on campus has been transformed into a very elaborate ice rink thanks to a square-shaped carpet and a large screen showing emo music videos (although some songs are valid as an emo, like “All Star” of Smash Mouth, was a hot topic of discussion all night). Even though I spent half the night falling all over the place with My Chemical Romance in the background, I was glad I tried something new. Surprisingly, I found that screaming every five seconds, desperately clinging to my friends, and familiarizing myself with the pitch was very liberating.
Emo Skate Night has helped me show the value of breaking the routine and trying things out of my comfort zone, especially with a few friends. Unexpectedly, I had a blast planting the face in the Stepan center of all places with Avril Lavigne’s “Sk8er Boi” clip as an epic backdrop. Having a Mario Kart style race around the roller skating mat and then crashing into at least five other people turned out to be a fun experience after all, despite my own doubts about it. I was particularly impressed with the creativity of my friends in developing an alternative use of glowsticks as lightsabers – something that I felt really highlighted their innovation as engineering majors.
Most importantly, I was reassured that there are plenty of ways to have fun on a Saturday night besides going to a party with lots of friends. I knew adjusting to college wouldn’t be an easy task, but I didn’t expect making friends and going out on weekends to be more like work than fun. Overcrowded parties in stuffy dorms were unpleasant experiences for me, and I used to envy large groups of friends I saw, wondering how people found so many close friends so quickly. While I joke that my difficulty in partying and the small size of my social circle of two people is due to forgetting how to talk to people during my 40s, I slowly realized that I was feel more comfortable not going to parties and having only a couple of close friends. Partying every weekend like in the movies isn’t for everyone, and having a large group of friends just a few months after being immersed in a new environment is a high expectation.
I’ve spoken to a few others who are feeling this, and if you’re one of them just know that it’s okay. It’s totally okay not to suddenly have a large group of friends that you feel deeply connected with. It is quite normal to stay on weekends. Do what makes you happiest and most comfortable. If it’s a lightsaber duel with the glow sticks at Emo Skate Night, then go for it. If it goes to parties every weekend, then go for it. One person’s idea of having fun may not be yours, and that’s fine.